Neural pathways send information from our nervous system to our brain. Think of them like familiar routes. We typically revert to the same routes we know to get us where we want to go. This is not to say, that there are not other routes. However, when we are talking about our psyche, it is not always so easy to simply go a new way on your way home. We establish familiar routes in our psyche as children using the resources we have which are taken from our environment, our experience of that environment, and also through what we have learned from the people who are closest to us, how they do it.
The more we do a behavior, the more reinforced it is to continue to do it that way. That's why making positive change is so hard.
However, every time you veer from the ordinary way you do things, you give your brain a glimpse at a new possibility. But you'll have to reinforce the behavior if you want it to stick. This is why I love doing rituals, they claim change in their symbolic approach. Symbolism and ritual are powerful ways of making new neural pathways, powerful ways to initiate change.
Change is a constant necessity if we are to live our best life. We have to adapt to the people and experiences that are always different around us, and do so wide open to meet the moment in its full capacity.
A simple ritual to ignite change, would be to identify a pattern or a way that you are doing something that is repetitive and then trying a new way. For example, if you go to your favorite restaurant every Friday and order the same thing every time, try ordering something new next time. To make this into a ritual, light a candle, ask your Spirit guides to support you, write a statement on a piece of paper, such as 'I am open to new beautiful experiences.' and then place the paper beneath the candle. Everything is connected, so this simple act of choosing a new dish to try at your favorite restaurant, might ripple out into other areas of your life. I think its important to add the ritual aspect with the candle and the positive statement to shift the energy. Otherwise, you might call in a bad experience when you try the new dish because your psyche isn't open to receiving it in a positive way. So, the ritual allows an opening to receive the new experience in a positive way.
You can apply this process to bigger changes you want to make in your life. If you identify a pattern that is unhealthy, you can work on building a new neural pathway that supports the change. Also, know that its not easy. That's why you have to reinforce it so much. Let's take the example of someone who keeps choosing unhealthy romantic relationships in which they fall for someone who is unavailable. You'd have to look at where and why you established this pattern to begin with. If the root of the pathway is that you don't believe you are worthy of someone staying and fully loving you, then you have something to work with. You will need to build a new pathway that seeks out those who are only available to love you. You will need to rewire the part of you that believes he/she does not deserve love that is available. And then you will need to strengthen the pathway within you that will seek out available lovers. Each person will do this is a unique way. But you can apply the same idea we used with the restaurant here. Set your new intention, and affirm it. "I am worthy of an available partner." You can say this each day while you light your candle and visualize a partner who is present with you. Do this for one month and see if anything shifts. Further, doing healing work on the part of you that built the old pathway will be important.